Friendship must remain “the freest of our relationships”

“I really enjoyed our friendship days, but we’re going in different directions in life. I am no longer able to invest in our friendship.” This is how you should end a friendship, according to New York psychologist Arianna Brandolini.

The video How to Break up with a Friend (“How to Break Up with a Friend,” in French) that she posted on TikTok last fall went viral, but not in a positive way. His flat sentences, which are more reminiscent of a bad draft of a conversation from ChatGPTdid not go down very well with his audience, despite his compassionate smile.

This TikTok psychologist is just one of many people sharing their tips for ending a friendship with the world these days. Breaking up with friends has become a trend. The Internet is full of advice: be constructive, speak in the first person, meditate to prepare and write a journal. Advice that we know all too well from couples therapy and podcasts on romantic relationships.

Long relegated to a sort of blind spot in our relational landscape, friendship is beginning to be analyzed more closely. A nationwide study by the Gottlieb Duttweiler-Institut last year looked at how we form and maintain friendship in Switzerland. The book market is flooded with advice books, and a growing number of couples therapy specialists also offer friendship counseling. We read everywhere about toxic friendships, about vampire friends who should be cut out of our lives because they suck up all our energy. Friendship is in turn affected by counter psychology and analysis.

“Pressure to perform”

The friendship had until now had the privilege of remaining under the radar, unlike all other relationships laden with expectations. There was no obligation to actively engage for or against a friendship. Friends would simply appear, it was chance that decided – for example who sat next to us during the first class (it’s even scientifically proven), who liked the same indie rock band

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New Zürcher Zeitung (Zurich)

Published in the financial capital of the country, it is a title of tradition and reference, with a centrist and liberal tendency. At the cutting edge internationally, it is read by all German speakers. Eric Gujer, its editor-in-chief since 2015, has driven two notable developments. First of all, what some have deplored as a right-wing drift in the newspaper’s positions, particularly on immigration issues. Then, the desire to consolidate on the German market to try to compensate for the erosion of sales that the daily newspaper, like the rest of the press, is facing.

When it was launched on January 12, 1780, the Zurich Zeitung positions itself as a sort of International mail of the time. In the first issue, editor-in-chief Salomon Gessner writes: “We have arranged to receive the news from the best French, English, Italian, Dutch and German newspapers, as well as from private correspondents, and to print them as quickly as our neighbors can.” In fact, the title specialized in international coverage, because censorship then prevented any serious journalistic work on Zurich and Switzerland.

The website of the NZZ is a veritable database: in addition to articles specific to online writing, around a hundred files bring together articles from the paper and online versions on major subjects.

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